"Their life is saved just like that."

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Asha

What were you doing before you started working here?

I was working with young girls. This was my passion working for women and girls. So I was working with young girls and then I took a break for my second son. And then God opened the doors for me to come here.

 

Were you working in a home for young girls?

No, it was a training center. I used to counsel them and feed them. I counsel the women here one on one too!

 

Do you notice a change in the women after they are here for a while?

Coming here, they know the love of Jesus. Despite their problems and situations at home they know the love of Jesus. God really does miracles in their lives. We have a Scripture portion and we read from a devotional book every morning. On Mondays we have group prayers. We divide ourselves into 5-6 people in a group and we take their personal needs and we pray for them.

 

Do the women stay in the same group?

Yes, for a while, so that they can get to know each other. And during the week I encourage them to pray for each other.

 

Can you tell us about the situations that the women come from?

Mostly just abusive ones. Some of them are unskilled and they wouldn’t have gotten a job anywhere else if not at Daughter’s (of Hope). They were going for house work jobs. Which is a very less pay scale. But this is a dignified job for them. And they’re educated also.

 

Do most of the women have arranged marriages?

Yes, most of them are arranged.

 

How old were you when you got married?
I was 21

 

Who does the arranging?

The parents. That’s why it’s called arranged J Sometimes other relatives are involved but at the end it comes back to the parents and they’re the ones that tell the children. Once the parents agree and accept it you have to do it. The women don’t have a choice. But now the generation has changed. Many have the ability to choose their wives and husbands.

 

What is it like working in the other places that the women come from?

it’s hard. Some of them tell us that there is so much difference in working here compared to there. The managers at the other places use abusive language and men are involved there. Men and women both work together so it’s not a safe environment and they don’t respect them. Pay is good but the other things are not so good. The hours are not good, they work late and on Saturdays.

 

How do the women hear about Daughter’s?

It’s God that’s bringing them, and he gives us the Spirit to choose the right people. For example, you just came today and I don’t know anything about you, but the Spirit says, “she needs this job. We need to take her.” God brings the right people. They aren’t here by accident. After about 2-3 months I start to get to know them and we come to learn that at that particular time, if we hadn’t given them a job, we don’t know what would have happened in their life. Most of them lost their husbands and are single parents with children. And some women wanted to attempt suicide but just happened to walk by and we took them in and their life is saved just like that.

 

So you feel that God really guides?

Yes, yes. It’s all God.

 

What are the age ranges of the women here?
We take women starting from 18 years old because you can not legally hire anyone younger than that. And then 58 is retirement age. But we did have one woman that we just sent off this month who was 60 years old. She was lonely so we kept her for 2 years more than her age because she needed this place but in the end we had to say no. The government gave us a lot of issue.

 

Someone mentioned that the women are all friends here?

Yes! The women used to be against each other with anger and jealousy, but it’s changed.

 

Has counseling influenced that?

Yes! They were not friends and I make them work together and be together and at first they don’t like it, but they can’t say no to me J and for my sake they will do it. I say, “when you don’t show love to one another, it’s not a good environment to work in. When we love Jesus, we need to love one another.”